THE VIRTUE OF THE POOR AND
UNKNOWN
QUESTION: What’s the purpose
of your life?
Look at the lives of
the Prophets:
None of them were
given the Dunya
Some of them were
given the best of the Dunya none can ever obtain
Despite this, they
lived simple lives and were not attached to the Dunya
واصبر نفسك مع الذين يدعون ربهم بالغداة والعشي يريدون وجهه ولا
تعد عيناك عنهم
18:28
252-"Shall I not inform you about the
people of Jannah? It is every person who is, modest and humble (before Allah),
a person who is accounted weak and is looked down upon but if he adjures Allah,
Allah will certainly give him what he desires. Now shall I not inform you about
the inmates of Hell? It is every violent, impertinent and proud man".
-The
people of Jannah are those who live for a greater purpose than that of the
Dunya.
253-Sahl bin Sa'd As-Sa'idi (May Allah be
pleased with him) reported:
A
man passed by the Prophet (ﷺ),
so he asked a man who was sitting near him, "What is your opinion about
this man?" That man replied: "He is one of the noblest men. By Allah
he is certainly a proper person for (a girl) being given in marriage if he
seeks to marry, and his recommendation is fit to be accepted if he
recommends". Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) remained silent. Then another man passed. Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) enquired, "What is your opinion about this man?" He
replied: "O Messenger of Allah, he is one of the poor Muslims. He is not a
proper person (for a girl) to be given in marriage to, and his recommendation
would not be accepted if he makes one; if he speaks, he is not to be listened
to." Messenger of Allah (ﷺ)
said, "He is better than the former by earthfuls".
From the worse of
mindsets that most people have in relation to their wealth is that they feel
that they have to compare themselves to others.
The more the wealth an individual has, the higher level of status and nobility. His proposal to any woman would be accepted. If such a person attends a gathering, the audience hang on to his every word. This is the case even if he doesn’t spend a penny, but despite the fact that he has wealth, sufficient is this for his reputation and superiority to be affirmed. If he orders a command, they will not be reluctant to obey him.
-Shaykh Sa’d ash-Shathri
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254-There was a dispute between the Hell and Jannah.
The Hell said: "The haughty and proud are my inmates." Jannah said:
"The modest and the humble are my residents". Thereupon, Allah the
Exalted and Glorious (addressing Jannah) said: "You are My Mercy, through
you I shall show mercy to those whom I wish". (And addressing the Hell),
He said: "You are (the means) of My punishment by which I shall punish
such of My slaves as I wish and each one of you would have its fill".
Caution! It is possible that a person
enters the blazing fire due to half a date, yes, just half a date!
Parellel to this,
the Prophet [Peace and Blessings of Allaah be upon him] has promised a great
reward and the entering into Jannah to those those who vary in their degree
with up to forty different stages. The lowest of them is a person who feeds
milk from a sheep that he owns. Minor was his expenditure but multiplied
is his reward.
-Shaykh Sa’d ash-Shathri
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255-"On the Day of Resurrection, there will be
brought forth a bulky person whose value to Allah will be less than that of the
wing of a mosquito".
256-Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with
him) reported:
A
black woman (or probably a young man) used to clean the mosque. Messenger of
Allah (ﷺ) missed
her (or him) and asked about her (or him). He was told that she (or he) had
died. He (ﷺ) said,
"Why did you not inform me?" (It seemed as if) they (Companions)
considered the matter insignificant. Then he (ﷺ) said, "Show me her (or his) grave." When it was
shown to him, he offered (Janazah-funeral) prayer over it and said, "These
graves cover those in them with darkness, and Allah illumines them for the
inmates as a result of my supplication for them".
257-"Many a person with shaggy and dusty hair,
dusty and driven away from doors (because of their poverty and shabby clothes)
were to swear by Allah (that something would happen), Allah will certainly make
it happen".
258-"I stood at the gate of Jannah, and (I saw)
that the majority of those who entered it are the poor, and the wealthy were
kept confined. The inmates of the Fire had been ordered to (enter) the Fire
(Hell), and I stood at the gate of Hell and saw that the majority of its
inmates are women".
259-" He (Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with
him)) further reported Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) as saying, "There happened to pass by them a slave girl
who was being beaten and they were saying: 'You have committed fornication and
theft.' She was saying: 'Allah is enough for me and He is my Good Protector,
and his mother said: 'O Allah, don't make my child like her.' He left sucking
looked at her and said: 'O Allah! Make me like her.' It was followed by a
conversation between the mother and the child. She said: 'A good looking man
happened to pass by and I said: O Allah, make my child like him, and you said:
O Allah, don't make me like him, and there passed a girl while they were
beating her and saying: You committed fornication and theft, and I said: O
Allah, don't make my child like her, and you said: O Allah, make me like her.'
The child said: 'That man was a tyrant, and I said: O Allah don't make me like
him; and they were saying about the girl: You committed fornication, whereas in
fact she had not committed that and they were saying: You have committed theft,
whereas she had not committed theft, so I said: O Allah, make me like
her".
SHOWING EMPATHY TO ORPHANS AND ALL
THOSE IN NEED - THE POOR, THE DISPLACED ETC.; BEING GOOD TO THEM AND SHOW
EMPATHY AND HUMILITY TOWARDS THEM
واخفض جناحك للمؤمنين
15:88
واصبر نفسك مع الذين يدعون ربهم بالغداة والعشي يريدون وجهه ولا تعد
عيناك عنهم تريد زينة الحياة الدنيا
18:28
فأما اليتيم فلا تقهر وأما السائل فلا تنهر
93:9-10
أرأيت الذي يكذب بالدين. فذلك الذي يدع اليتيم. ولا يحض على طعام
المسكين
107-1-3
262-"I will be like this in Jannah
with the person who takes care of an orphan". Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) raised his forefinger and middle finger by way of
illustration.
263-"He who takes care of an orphan,
whether he is his relative or a stranger, will be in Jannah with me like these
two". The narrator, Malik bin Anas raised his forefinger and middle finger
for illustration.
264-"A Miskin (needy) is not the one who can be
turned away with a date-fruit or two, or a morsel or two. The true Miskin is
one who, despite his poverty, abstains from begging".
265-"One who strives to help the widows and the
poor is like the one who fights in the way of Allah." The narrator said: I
think that he (ﷺ)
added also: "I shall regard him as the one who stands up (for prayer)
without rest and as the one who observes fasts continuously".
266-"The worst food is the food of the marriage
banquet from which those are left out who would like to come; and to which
those are invited who refuse to come. He who rejects an invitation disobeys
Allah and His Messenger".
267-"Whoever supports two girls till they attain
maturity, he and I will come on the Day of Resurrection like this".
Messenger of Allah (ﷺ)
joined his fingers illustrating this.
268-'Aishah (May Allah be pleased with her)
reported:
A
woman came to me with her two daughters. She asked me (for charity) but she
found nothing with me except one date-fruit, so I gave it to her. She accepted
it and then divided it between her two daughters and herself ate nothing out of
that. She then got up and went out. When Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) came in, and I narrated to him the story, he said, "He
who is involved (in the responsibility) of (bringing up) daughters, and he is
benevolent towards them, they would become protection for him against
Hell-fire".
269-'Aishah (May Allah be pleased with her)
reported:
A
poor woman came to me carrying her two daughters. I gave her three date-fruits.
She gave a date to each of them and then she took up one date-fruit and brought
that to her mouth to eat, but her daughters asked her that also. She then
divided between them the date-fruit that she intended to eat. This (kind)
treatment of her impressed me and I mentioned that to Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) who said, 'Verily, Allah has assured Jannah for her, because
of (this act) of her," or said, "He has rescued her from Hell-
Fire".
270-"O Allah, I declare inviolable the rights of
two weak ones: the orphans and women".
271-Sa'd considered himself better than his inferiors,
so the Prophet (ﷺ)
said to him, "You are given help and provision because of your weak
ones".
272-"Seek among your weak ones, for you are given
provision and help only because of the weak amongst you."
ADVICE TO WOMEN
The Companions used to ask
about their responsibilities and the rights of dependants. Al-Baqarah has
several examples.
They
ask you (O Muhammad ) what they should spend.
2:215
And
they ask you what they ought to spend
2:219
And
they ask you concerning orphans
2:220
They
ask you concerning menstruation
2:222
-Ibn Uthaymin
وعاشروهن بالمعروف
4:19
ولن تستطيعوا أن تعدلوا بين النساء ولو حرصتم فلا تميلوا كل الميل فتذروها كالمعلقة، وإن تصلحوا وتتقوا فإن اللَّه كان غفوراً رحيماً
4:129
273 – Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with
him) reported:
Messenger of Allah
(ﷺ) said: "Take my advice with regard to
women: Act kindly towards women, for they were created from a rib, and the most
crooked part of a rib is its uppermost. If you attempt to straighten it; you
will break it, and if you leave it alone it will remain crooked; so act kindly
toward women".
It’s upon the man
to be patient, to seek what’s better and not to be hasty. He should adopt
giving of advice and reminding until she becomes upright….You have been
commanded to treat women amiably.
-Ibn
Baz
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274 –"Some of you beat your wives as if
they were slaves, and then lie with them at the end of the day".
Meaning, treating
them as if they are slaves or prisoners. There is no connection between man
and wife in this scenario, whereas marriage must be built upon love,
compassion and mutual understanding. Therefore, this narration prohibits
anything which is vile in statement, action and in attitudes towards her.
How can a person
be rude to his wife throughout the day and then at night he wants something
from her, pretending to be compassionate?! He only wants to fulfil his
desires and enjoy himself. Such an attitude doesn’t befit anyone with common
sense let alone a believer.
-Ibn
Uthaymin
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275 – "A believer must not hate (his
wife) believing woman; if he dislikes one of her characteristics, he will be
pleased with another"
A man must be
just (about himself also). Justice is to proportionate good and bad habits,
look at what is greater and what needs work on…
If she has been
good or bad to you, don’t let that prevent you thinking about all the other
good that she has done. Don’t limit one another’s favours to one another.
If her bad is
greater than the good, then pardon and advise. Sacrifice some of your rights
if need be.
-Ibn Uthaymin
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276 – 'Amr bin Al-Ahwas Al-Jushami (May Allah
be pleased with him) reported that he had heard the Prophet (ﷺ) saying on his Farewell Pilgrimage, after
praising and glorifying Allah and admonishing people, "Treat women kindly,
they have a degree of responsibility over you; you do not owe anything else
from them. In case they are guilty of open indecency, then do not share their
beds and beat them lightly but if they return to obedience, do not have
recourse to anything else against them. You have rights over your wives and
they have their rights over you. Your right is that they shall not permit
anyone you dislike to enter your home, and their right is that you should treat
them well in the matter of food and clothing".
Steps to marriage:
1-Work on yourself
2-Work on your family
3-Find a righteous partner
4-Meet and agree objectives
5-Get married and apply the
above – seek to improve on step 1
6-Raise children and repeat
the loop
277- Mu'awiyah bin Haidah (May Allah be
pleased with him) reported:
I asked Messenger
of Allah (ﷺ): "What right can any wife demand of her husband?" He
replied, "You should give her food when you eat, clothe her when you
clothe yourself, not strike her on the face, and do not insult her or separate
from her except in the house".
Most people (men
and women) are the complete opposite of this. Most people ask but they don’t
act. Had people known and implemented the Sharia properly then this would be
a proof for him.
-Ibn
Uthaymin
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278- "The believers who show the most
perfect Faith are those who have the best behaviour, and the best of you are
those who are the best to their wives"
The best of those in Eman
are those who have the best of manners and behaviour publicly, so how about
privately.
The word
“manners” is comprehensive and it includes:
-Preventing harm
-Trying to be
good towards others
-Being patient
with the bad manners of others and in whatever happens to him.
-Ibn Uthaymin
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279- Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said, "Do not beat Allah's
bondwomen." When 'Umar (May Allah be pleased with him) came to Messenger
of Allah (ﷺ) and complained saying: "The women have become very daring
towards their husbands," He (ﷺ) gave permission to beat them. Then many
women went to the family of the Messenger of Allah (wives) complaining of their
husbands, and he (the Prophet (ﷺ)) said, "Many women have gone round
Muhammad's family complaining of their husbands. Those who do so, that is,
those who take to beating their wives, are not the best among you".
This is best
explained by another statement of his:
Narrated from ‘Umar ibn al-Khattaab (may
Allaah be pleased with him) that a man came to him wanting to divorce his
wife, and when ‘Umar asked him about the reason for that, he said that he did
not love her. ‘Umar replied: Are families not built on anything but
love.
‘Umar also asked a woman whether she felt
hatred towards her husband? She said: Yes. ‘Umar said to her: One of you
should lie (about their feelings) and be patient. Not every family is built
on love, but on good treatment on the basis of lineage and Islam.
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280- "The world is but a (quick
passing) enjoyment; and the best enjoyment of the world is a pious and virtuous
woman".
This summarises all of the
above: if you are good with one another and work with one another, there is
nothing better having one another in the home that you have built with each
other.
Piety refers to
Eman but it also refers to knowledge and health. This will reproduce a new
generation of a bright and intelligent children, who are pious and have the
best of upbringing.
-Ibn Uthaymin
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RIGHTS OF THE HUSBAND
الرِّجَالُ قَوَّامُونَ
عَلَى النِّسَاء بِمَا فَضَّلَ اللَّهُ بَعْضَهُمْ عَلَى بَعْضٍ وَبِمَا
أَنفَقُواْ مِنْ أَمْوَالِهِمْ فَالصَّالِحَاتُ قَانِتَاتٌ حَافِظَاتٌ لِّلْغَيْبِ
بِمَا حَفِظَ اللَّهُ
4:34
-The
man is commanded to look after the family.
-It is permitted for women to work and contribute but it is not
obligated upon.
QUESTION:
Despite this, Islam has strict laws on what women wear and mixing
between the genders, why is this?
-Islam is not about economy and socialising alone – its about being
responsible and building.
-Had we all been instructed to work, the above framework be lost.
281- "When
a man calls his wife to his bed, and she does not respond and he (the husband)
spends the night angry with her, the angels pray against her until
morning".
1-Not only do have men have a great deal of responsibility, women also
have a great share of responsibility towards their husbands also.
2-This Hadith only applies if the husband is upholding the framework and
she becomes sinful for trying to break it.
Look what Allah says
about the man if he breaks it:
الَّذِينَ يَبْخَلُونَ )أي: يمنعون ما عليهم من الحقوق الواجبة (وَيَأْمُرُونَ
النَّاسَ بِالْبُخْلِ وَيَكْتُمُونَ مَا آتَاهُمُ اللَّهُ مِن فَضْلِهِ )ويظهرون لهم من الباطل ما يحول بينهم وبين الحق (وَأَعْتَدْنَا
لِلْكَافِرِينَ عَذَابًا مُّهِينًا
)ثم
أخبر عن النفقة الصادرة عن رياء وسمعة وعدم إيمان به (وَالَّذِينَ يُنفِقُونَ أَمْوَالَهُمْ
رِئَاء النَّاسِ وَلاَ يُؤْمِنُونَ بِاللَّهِ وَلاَ بِالْيَوْمِ الآخِرِ وَمَن
يَكُنِ الشَّيْطَانُ لَهُ قَرِينًا فَسَاء قَرِينًا
4:37-38
282- "It is
not lawful for a woman to observe (voluntary) fasting without the permission of
her husband when he is at home; and she should not allow anyone to enter his
house without his permission.".
-Even acts of
worship can’t disrupt the framework.
283- "All of you are guardians
and are responsible for your subjects. The ruler is a guardian of his subjects,
the man is a guardian of his family, the woman is a guardian and is responsible
for her husband's house and his offspring; and so all of you are guardians and
are responsible for your subjects."
-All of you have a
responsibility to learn, implement and preserve the framework.
284- "When a man calls his wife
to satisfy his desire, she must go to him even if she is occupied with the
oven".
All forms of
disrepute between must be prevented, even if either party is busy. It is
obligatory for Muslims to stop any kind of discord from appearing.
-Ibn Uthaymin
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285- "If I were to order anyone
to prostrate himself before another, I would have ordered a woman to prostrate
herself before her husband".
-Some of our best
memories from when we were little is when there were happiness, stability and
both mother and father loved one another.
From our worst
memories are the opposite.
All of this
affects the individual and this WILL affect society.
286- "Any woman dies while her
husband is pleased with her, she will enter Jannah".
287- "Whenever a woman harms her
husband in this world (that is without any due right), his wife among the
(Houris in Jannah) says: 'You must not harm him. May Allah destroy you! He is
only a passing guest with you and is about to leave you to come to us".
-The great reward
for both parties for preserving the framework.
-The severity of
the punishment for both parties for removing or harming the framework.
288- "I am not leaving behind me
a more harmful trial for men than women".
Some people’s test
and path to Jannah is how they fulfil their desires and how they interact with
their families. For others, this is easy and their test is elsewhere. Whatever
be the persons test, a person can rarely be isolated from being part of the
framework.
And Allah Knows
best
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