A gift is to give something without receiving something in return. [The ruling is that] it is Mustahab (recommended) because the Prophet (Peace and Blessings of Allah be upon him) said, “Give gifts, you will love one another.[1]”
Gift giving is of two types:
1-Gifts given for the body
2-Gifts given for the soul
Gifts given for the body, these are tangible gifts which are
shared with others. As for gifts given for the soul then this is Dua. And
anyone who gifts a gift to another for the body they will be loved/appreciated,
and anyone who gifts a gift to another for the soul they will be
loved/appreciated.
For this reason, if you want someone to love/appreciate you,
then increase in making Dua for that person in their absence. There is no one
that makes Dua for his brother/sister in their absence except that they will
love/appreciate them.
It is reported with at-Tirmidhi that
a group of the Companions (may Allah be pleased with them all) came to the
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and they said, “We have
relatives who do not keep ties” due to constant argumentation, bickering etc.
So the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said to him, “Where
are you in making Istighfar for him?”[2]
So if a person makes Istighar for his brother, even if there is some kind of
enmity or disagreement between them, then you will find that the second party
will have his heart opened towards you; he will love you, his heart will be
softened towards you and you will find that Allah will place a great deal of
good in his heart towards you.
What also supports this meaning is
also the statement of the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him),
“The best of your leaders are those whom you love and they love you, and you
pray for them and they pray for you.”[3]
Here, this ad-Dalalah al-Iqtiraan (a principle which annotates that the
evidence can be found within the context) ‘pray’ means Dua. Therefore, if you
supplicate for them, they will love you and if they supplicate for you, you
will love them.
This shows that Dua for one another
necessitates a bringing about of love for one another. Therefore, if two people
have tensions, enminty or rivalry on account of the Dunya – then increase in
making Dua for them. Increase in making Dua for your brother who you have
tensions with. You will find whats in your heart has gone and what was in his
heart has also gone.
Shaykh Abdus-Salam bin Muhammad
ash-Shuwaay’ir
Source: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k11z0gmdlvs
[1]
Al-Adab al-Mufrad (594) by al-Bukhari on the authority of Abu Hurayrah (Allah
be pleased with him) and classed as Hasan by Ibn Hajr, as-Sakhawi, al-Albani
and others.
[2]
An-Nasaai (10287), Musnad Ahmad (23362), Ibn Maajah (767); classified as weak
by al-Albani but Hasan by Ibn Hajar due to supporting chains with the wording
of Ibn Maajah, “My family used to have a harsh tongue towards me and they do
not visit anyone. So I mentioned this to the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah
be upon him) and he said, ‘Where are you with making Istihgfar. Seek Istighfar
from Allah more than seventy times a day.’” – on the authority of Huthayfan bin
al-Yaman (Allah be pleased with him).
[3]
Saheeh Muslim (1855) with the wording on the authority of Awf bin Maalik
al-Ashja’ee, “The best of your leaders are those whom you love and they love
you. You pray for them and they pray for you.”
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