The Times when Children Can Go to Their Parents Room and
Times When they Need to Seek Permission Before Doing So.
Question: At what age should the child start to seek
permission before going to his parents room?
Answer: This has been explained by Allaah in Surah
an-Noor, where He Stated:
“O you who believe! Let your legal slaves and
slave-girls, and those among you who have not come to the age of puberty ask
your permission (before they come to your presence) on three occasions; before Fajr
(morning) prayer, and while you put off your clothes for the noonday (rest),
and after the 'Isha' (late-night) prayer. (These) three times are of
privacy for you, other than these times there is no sin on you or on them to
move about, attending (helping) you each other. Thus Allah makes clear the Ayat
(the Verses of this Qur'an, showing proofs for the legal aspects of
permission for visits, etc.) to you. And
Allah is All-Knowing, All-Wise.” [an-Noor 24:58]
After that, He Stated:
“And when the children among you come to puberty, then
let them (also) ask for permission, as those senior to them (in age). Thus
Allah makes clear His Ayat (Commandments and legal obligations) for you.
And Allah is All-Knowing, All-Wise.” [an-Noor 24:59]
So before the age of puberty (at an age where they can
decipher between genders, this is known as Tamyeez), they should seek
permission the three aforementioned times however after they started or passed
puberty, then they should seek permission to enter at all times.
The child starts puberty if one of the three signs are
present: either he starts ejaculating with desires, or he grows pubic hair on
his armpits or private parts or when he reaches the age of fifteen years old.
If these are present, then he must seek permission before entering at any time
of the day. This is the case upon entering upon his mother who may be in an
undecent state for him to see her in, or it may be his wife, or his sister, the
point is that he should ask for permission before entering so that these women
will not be surprised when he enters so that they can be dressed appropriately when
he enters. As for children or who have not yet started puberty (but haven’t entered
the age of Tamyeez), then they only need to seek permission during the three
times mentioned above.
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