Parenting Fiqh: The Times when Children Can Go to Their Parents Room and Times When they Need to Seek Permission Before Doing So

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Question: At what age should the child start to seek permission before going to his parents 

room?

Answer: This has been explained by Allaah in Surah an-Noor, where He Stated:

“O you who believe! Let your legal slaves and slave-girls, and those among you who have not come to the age of puberty ask your permission (before they come to your presence) on three occasions; before Fajr (morning) prayer, and while you put off your clothes for the noonday (rest), and after the 'Isha' (late-night) prayer. (These) three times are of privacy for you, other than these times there is no sin on you or on them to move about, attending (helping) you each other. Thus Allah makes clear the Ayat (the Verses of this Qur'an, showing proofs for the legal aspects of permission  for visits, etc.) to you. And Allah is All-Knowing, All-Wise.” [an-Noor 24:58]

After that, He Stated:

And when the children among you come to puberty, then let them (also) ask for permission, as those senior to them (in age). Thus Allah makes clear His Ayat (Commandments and legal obligations) for you. And Allah is All-Knowing, All-Wise. [an-Noor 24:59]

So before the age of puberty, they should seek permission the three aforementioned times 

however after they started or passed puberty, then they should seek permission to enter, at 

all times.

The child starts puberty if one of the three signs are present: either he starts ejaculating with 

desires, or he grows pubic hair on his armpits or private parts or when he reaches the age of fifteen years old. If these are present, then he must seek permission before entering at any time of the day. This is the case upon entering upon his mother who may be in an indecent state for him to see her in, or it may be his wife, or his sister, the point is that he should ask for permission before entering so that these women will not be surprised when he enters so that they can be descent for him when he enters. As for children or who have not yet started puberty, then they only 

need to seek permission during the three times mentioned above.

http://www.binbaz.org.sa/mat/9631

Parenting Fiqh: The Times when Children Can Go to Their Parents Room and Times When they Need to Seek Permission Before Doing So

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Question: At what age should the child start to seek permission before going to his parents 

room?

Answer: This has been explained by Allaah in Surah an-Noor, where He Stated:

“O you who believe! Let your legal slaves and slave-girls, and those among you who have not come to the age of puberty ask your permission (before they come to your presence) on three occasions; before Fajr (morning) prayer, and while you put off your clothes for the noonday (rest), and after the 'Isha' (late-night) prayer. (These) three times are of privacy for you, other than these times there is no sin on you or on them to move about, attending (helping) you each other. Thus Allah makes clear the Ayat (the Verses of this Qur'an, showing proofs for the legal aspects of permission  for visits, etc.) to you. And Allah is All-Knowing, All-Wise.” [an-Noor 24:58]

After that, He Stated:

And when the children among you come to puberty, then let them (also) ask for permission, as those senior to them (in age). Thus Allah makes clear His Ayat (Commandments and legal obligations) for you. And Allah is All-Knowing, All-Wise. [an-Noor 24:59]

So before the age of puberty, they should seek permission the three aforementioned times 

however after they started or passed puberty, then they should seek permission to enter, at 

all times.

The child starts puberty if one of the three signs are present: either he starts ejaculating with 

desires, or he grows pubic hair on his armpits or private parts or when he reaches the age of fifteen years old. If these are present, then he must seek permission before entering at any time of the day. This is the case upon entering upon his mother who may be in an indecent state for him to see her in, or it may be his wife, or his sister, the point is that he should ask for permission before entering so that these women will not be surprised when he enters so that they can be descent for him when he enters. As for children or who have not yet started puberty, then they only 

need to seek permission during the three times mentioned above.

http://www.binbaz.org.sa/mat/9631

Parenting Fiqh: How to form Rows for Children Whilst Praying Behind the Imaam

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Question: If there are small children, between the age of seven and ten years old for example, how do we form their rows? May Allaah Reward you with good.

Answer: The stand in a rows behind the Imaam. If the first row has been completed they then form a second row and completing it, regardless of their age, being seven or above. Young girls should form their rows behind the boys and they should carry making rows in succession as well. Therefore, the children are behind the Imaam ,then the girls row behind the boys, then the girls behind them and the final row is for the women.

However, men should be brought before children but if he comes and finds the rows full, then there is no harm in this (then he should pray with the boys), and if there is no space then he should pray in the rows with the girls, who are standing behind the boys, eve if he mixing with the girls and there is no harm in this. However, he must pray behind the boys only if the rows are full. And then the final row are for the women, even if they are adults they must pray behind the children.

http://www.binbaz.org.sa/mat/15905

Parenting Fiqh: Are Children who Have Passed Away Reunited with their Parents? And What is Their Fate?

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Question: Are children who die before they start puberty, reunited with their parents in the Hereafter? And what is there fate?

Answer: Yes, if they pass away before they start puberty and they are children of Muslim parents, then they will be with them in Jannah, and this is the view of consensus of the Muslims. If they die, they will be in Jannah, the scholars differed on the state of the children of the Mushrikeen, the children of the Muslims will be in Jannah, and in Jannah no one is alone, everyone will be reunited. All of the people of Jannah will be paired with whom they want and they will meet whoever they ask to meet, and they will marry al-Hoor al-‘Ayn and from the women of the Dunya, every man in Jannah will have a wife.

 

http://www.binbaz.org.sa/mat/10386

Parenting Fiqh: Bringing Children to the Masjid on the Day of Jumu’ah

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Question: What is your advice to those who bring their children to the Masjid on the day of Jumu’ah. These children distract those who pray by talking aloud and playing around whilst the Imaam is delivering the Khateeb.

Answer:

Children under the age of seven must stay with their mothers so that they don’t distract the people. It is incumbent that they stay with their families so that they don’t harm people. If the child has reached the age of seven years old, or above, then he must pray with the people because the Prophet [Peace and Blessings of Allaah be Upon him] ordered children to pray and ordered their guardians to obligate them to pray at the age of seven years old, “Command your children to pray as-Salaah at the age of seven years old and hit them at the age of ten years old (if they don’t pray).” So it is upon their fathers and their elder brothers (i.e. guardians) to bring them to prayers and to teach them and if they distract or harm others, then they must be prevented until they come can come to the Masjid in the correct fashion, so that they pray without harming others.

 http://www.binbaz.org.sa/mat/16434

Parenting Fiqh: Protecting the Masjid from Impurities of Children

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Question: We were in the Masjid al-Haram for the purpose of doing ‘Umrah. Because of difficulties in finding a place that night, we  stayed in the Masjid al-Haram for that night alone, and we had with a small child, her age was not above three and a half years old. She fell a sleep and we soon realised that she had urinated on the carpet because it became damp and we were also unable to wash the urine off because many people were sleeping around us. I forgot to wash the urine off after we left, so what must I do? Please benefit us.

Answer: It is obligatory upon you to repent because of what happened and not to repeat this act again. If you must stay in the Masjid al-Haram or the Masjid an-Nabawee or any other Masjid, and you have a child with you, then you must look after her so that her urine or faeces doesn’t impurify the Masjid. And if it does happen then you must be certain in cleaning it up or to notify someone who can do it for you, so that the Masjid remains pure from such impurities. And it is not permissible for someone to be easy going in such matterss, may Allaah Pardon us and you and all the Muslims.

http://www.binbaz.org.sa/mat/2340

Parenting Fiqh: Is it Necessary for a Child to have Wudhoo When Touching the Mushaf?

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Question: I am a teacher in a primary school and I teach the Noble Quraan as a subject to young girls. These girls are very young in age and they are not able to make Wudhoo very well, perhaps because of this they are not even considered as those who have made Wudhoo. They touch the Mushaf and they follow me as I  recite and they do this whilst they are not in a state of Wudhoo[1]. So are they sinful? And is it compulsory upon me to teach them how to do the Wudhoo or not?

Answer:  If these girls are seven years old then they should be taught on how to make Wudhoo until they do it properly, then they should be allowed to touch the Mushaf. However, if they are not able to make Wudhoo then they are not in a state of Wudhoo, then you should write down the lesson (i.e. what you are teaching them from the Quraan) on the board or on paper  so that they don’t touch the Mushaf (without Wudhoo). And this would be sufficient from you, Allaah Willing, and you should be cautious on doing this, and it is also incumbent upon you to guide them and teach them (to the rulings pertaining to this). May Allaah Reward you with good.

http://www.binbaz.org.sa/mat/2256

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[1] Note, the questioner is asking about a copy of the Quraan in Arabic, not English; as the ruling of being Islaamically pure when touching the Quraan only apply to the Arabic Mushaf: see Majmoo’ of Ibn Baaz (24/340).

Parenting Fiqh: Permissiblity of Children Wearing Nappies During Rituals (and Prayers)

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Honourable scholar, the questioner is asking: Is it permissible for me to carry my child in as-Salaat, at-Tawaaf, as-Sa’ee (between as-Safaa and al-Marwa) whilst the child is wearing a nappy - bearing in mind that the nappy may be dirty from within, but it hasn’t leaked.

Answer: There’s no harm in this. If carrying your child whilst you pray has been established to be permissible then how can it be not permissible to carry them in at-Tawaaf and as-Sa’ee. There is no harm in this. If the child is wearing nappies and the impurities within the nappy are contained and don’t leak, there is no harm in this whatsoever.

http://www.alfawzan.af.org.sa/node/9171

Bringing Children to the Masjid on the Day of Jumu’ah

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Question: What is your advice to those who bring their children to the Masjid on the day of Jumu’ah. These children destract those who pray by talking aloud and playing around whilst the Imaam is delivering the Khateeb.

Answer: 

Children under the age of seven must stay with their mothers so that they don’t destract the people. It is incumbent that they stay with their families so that they don’t harm people. If the child has reached the age of seven years old, or above, then he must pray with the people because the Prophet [Peace and Blessings of Allaah be Upon him] ordered children to pray and ordered their guardians to obligate them to pray at the age of seven years old, “Command your children to pray as-Salaah at the age of seven years old and hit them at the age of ten years old (if they don’t pray).” So it is upon their fathers and their elder brothers (i.e. gaurdians) to bring them to prayers and to teach them and if they destract or harm others, then they must be prevented until they come can come to the Masjid in the correct fashion, so that they pray without harming others.

 http://www.binbaz.org.sa/mat/16434

Making Ruqyah and Dua’a in English

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Shaykh al-Islaam Ibn Taymiyyah [may Allaah have Mercy on him and Purify his soul] said:

(In origin) It is disliked (Makrooh) to do Ruqyah in any language other than Arabic, such as Hebrew or Syriac etc.  because there is a fear that wording which are not permissible will be used. End quote.

[Iqtidaa’ as-Siraat al-Mustaqeem (Pg. 203)]

He also said:

Most of what the people possess  from amulets and charms and the Ruqyah they practice is not understood in Arabic. Even worse, most of them involve shirk and worship of Jinn. Based on this, the scholars have prohibited any form of Ruqyah with wording which is not understood in its meaning, regardless if the person using them knowing that the wording involves shirk or not. End quote.

[Majmoo’ al-Fataawaa (19/13)]

Shaykh Sulaymaan bin ‘Abdullah, the grandson of Shaykh al-Islaam Muhammad bin ‘Abdul Wahaab [may Allaah have Mercy on them both] said:

The scholars hold it as being Makrooh to do Ruqyah from sources other than the Book of Allaah. The meaning of what Shaykh al-Islaam stated (quoted above) is that it is disliked to use supplications (Dua’a) or Ruqyah in a language where one doesn’t know the meaning of the words (or its implications) and languages other than Arabic; this is because they may utter statements which conflict with the foundations of al-Islaam. 

I say: Ibn ‘Abdus-Salaam was asked about supplicating and using the Arabic letters for Ruqyah (such as الم or الر or حم or other letters that appear at the beginning of certain Surahs) and he prohibited it as there is a fear that they will lead to Kufr in their use (TN: what is understood is that people may change the meaning or depend on letters from the alphabet to bring a cure and not Allaah, the Most High). 

As-Suyootee stated that there is scholarly consensus which becomes binding to follow (this is known as Ijmaa’) that an exception is made for those who don’t know Arabic, however this is on three conditions; 

1. That the person is using a correct translation of the  Words of Allaah, or His Names and Attributes

2. That the meaning is clear and not obscure

3. That the one doing Ruqyah or supplicating is seeking to gain a response from Allaah and not that the act of doing Ruqyah itself will bring about the cure. End quote. 

[Sharh Kitaab at-Tawheed (Pg. 136)]

Translated from the Editing of Shaykh ‘Aadil ar-Rafaa’ee of Sharh al-‘Aqeedah al-Waasitiyyah (Pg. 75)

Is it Necessary for a Child to have Wudhoo When Touching the Mushaf?

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Question: I am a teacher in a primary school and I teach the Noble Quraan as a subject to young girls. These girls are very young in age and they are not able to make Wudhoo very well, perhaps because of this they are not even considered as those who have made Wudhoo. They touch the Mushaf and they follow me as I  recite and they do this whilst they are not in a state of Wudhoo[1]. So are they sinful? And is it compulsory upon me to teach them how to do the Wudhoo or not?

Answer:  If these girls are seven years old then they should be taught on how to make Wudhoo until they do it properly, then they should be allowed to touch the Mushaf. However, if they are not able to make Wudhoo then they are not in a state of Wudhoo, then you should write down the lesson (i.e. what you are teaching them from the Quraan) on the board or on paper  so that they don’t touch the Mushaf (without Wudhoo). And this would be sufficient from you, Allaah Willing, and you should be cautious on doing this, and it is also incumbent upon you to guide them and teach them (to the rulings pertaining to this). May Allaah Reward you with good.

http://www.binbaz.org.sa/mat/2256

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[1] Note, the questioner is asking about a copy of the Quraan in Arabic, not English; as the ruling of being Islaamically pure when touching the Quraan only apply to the Arabic Mushaf: see Majmoo’ of Ibn Baaz (24/340).

The Times when Children Can Go to Their Parents Room and Times When they Need to Seek Permission Before Doing So.

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The Times when Children Can Go to Their Parents Room and Times When they Need to Seek Permission Before Doing So.

Question: At what age should the child start to seek permission before going to his parents room?

Answer: This has been explained by Allaah in Surah an-Noor, where He Stated:

“O you who believe! Let your legal slaves and slave-girls, and those among you who have not come to the age of puberty ask your permission (before they come to your presence) on three occasions; before Fajr (morning) prayer, and while you put off your clothes for the noonday (rest), and after the 'Isha' (late-night) prayer. (These) three times are of privacy for you, other than these times there is no sin on you or on them to move about, attending (helping) you each other. Thus Allah makes clear the Ayat (the Verses of this Qur'an, showing proofs for the legal aspects of permission  for visits, etc.) to you. And Allah is All-Knowing, All-Wise.” [an-Noor 24:58]

After that, He Stated:

“And when the children among you come to puberty, then let them (also) ask for permission, as those senior to them (in age). Thus Allah makes clear His Ayat (Commandments and legal obligations) for you. And Allah is All-Knowing, All-Wise.” [an-Noor 24:59]

So before the age of puberty (at an age where they can decipher between genders, this is known as Tamyeez), they should seek permission the three aforementioned times however after they started or passed puberty, then they should seek permission to enter at all times. 

The child starts puberty if one of the three signs are present: either he starts ejaculating with desires, or he grows pubic hair on his armpits or private parts or when he reaches the age of fifteen years old. If these are present, then he must seek permission before entering at any time of the day. This is the case upon entering upon his mother who may be in an undecent state for him to see her in, or it may be his wife, or his sister, the point is that he should ask for permission before entering so that these women will not be surprised when he enters so that they can be dressed appropriately when he enters. As for children or who have not yet started puberty (but haven’t entered the age of Tamyeez), then they only need to seek permission during the three times mentioned above.  

http://www.binbaz.org.sa/mat/9631